Absurd Person Singular
April 2nd, 2008 | 
Author: So here’s the thing. Yesterday I found out that the GOH (who from this point on needs a new name, suggestions please) has been cheating on me for basically our entire relationship. He says that he’s only seen her twice, which she confirms but she’s also sent me emails and messages that he’s sent her for the last few months and it’s patently obvious that’s cheating.
I found out because she told me…he told her we’d split up 6 weeks ago and she agreed to see him Easter weekend. As an aside here people that’s the day after my birthday when he told me he couldn’t travel to see me. Anyway, she then saw him again last Saturday, after he’d spent Friday night with me.
She wasn’t sure about him, and decided she’d contact me to see how I was after the split. Obviously then the proverbial smelly stuff hit the proverbial spinny thing and suffice to say we are now both single.
She sent a very public email round to a lot of our friends telling them (copying in both me and him) to which he replied (again to everyone) apologising. Late last night he sent her a private email telling her lies about things I had said to him and this morning sent me a private email telling me lies about things I had said to him, as well as lies about their relationship.
I am, as you would imagine, totally gutted. I had no idea things weren’t going well between us, after all you’d expect someone who had gone off you to not ask you to visit early to spend more time with you or continue a physical relationship with you, especially as they really wanted to be with someone else.
He claims he’s just gutless and wanted to finish with me but didn’t. Between you, me and the gatepost I think he’s arrogant and thought he would get away with it for as long as he could and then dump me and stay with her before he got found out. He’d told each of us enough lies to sink a battleship, does he not think that women…especially women who have been friends for years, would talk to each other eventually.
What’s funny about it is that between the two of us (me and her) we’ve worked out so many things he’s told us that aren’t true, and things he’s done that are ridiculous that it’s made us laugh at him all the more.
Doesn’t stop me feeling devastated though.
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Whatever the circumstances, I am sorry to read this LizSara. It’s never easy to deal with a break-up even if it’s patently clear that the other person is/was less than worthy of your relationship and your attentions.
I hope that things improve for you and that you show yourself and him that they have in the best possible way – by moving forward positively and being happy without him
Bastard. At least you and the other girl now both know he’s a cheat.
*hugs*, sweetie.
I would recommend calling him EBM (Evil Bastard Man).
Grrr.
I’m sorry to hear about the split but (as I’m sure everyone is telling you) it’s for the best. I know it hurts like hell at the moment though.
PS Probably not the best time to mention it but my blog has moved – I’m now at http://www.parlezvousmoo.com
I updated my feed link to your new site this morning
I know it’s for the best, and to be honest whilst i am still really upset i’m also really relieved!
Thnaks for all the support peeps, it means a lot.
Oh and EBM…i like it!
OMG, I’m so sorry.
I’ve been reading from the start and just got to this point in time.
I have nothing helpful to give you but I’m dreadfully sorry he’s been such a shit.
Der!
When I say I’ve been reading from the start I really meant that I’ve just found you, scrolled to the start of your archives and have been reading forwards in time from there.
Except I didn’t say that, I merely burbled.
i knew what you meant